It’s kind of hard to think of characteristics you want in a partner. You don’t want to be too picky, but you don’t want to have nonexistent standards. I asked Caitlyn just the other morning what are some ways that a guy could win her heart, and she had a hard time coming up with ten things. She hesitated for a long time, and we even lost track of conversation.
I told her at first, “I just know that I want a nice boy who’s taller than me, and can make me laugh.” I’m only an inch and a half over five feet tall, so the height thing shouldn’t be an issue. I really had to think hard about other things that I would love in a partner, and the more that I thought about it, I realized, why didn’t these things come to mind earlier this morning?
Caitlyn said that her ideal boyfriend would be at least six foot tall and do random acts of kindness. I personally think the height requirement is a stretch, which I did joke about to her, “and what if you fall for someone who’s 5’10?” She straight-faced said it was a deal breaker! I still can’t believe her.
So, after much thought, this is what I came up with that could help a guy win me over. (Edit: But now that I think about it, this could go for friendships, as well.) Not every little thing that I thought of is on here, but I went with ones that were more like a make-or-break kind of deal.
Make me laugh. And laugh with me. I’ve always said that the first thing I look for in a person is a sense of humor, and it’s 100% true. I need someone who knows just what to say to make me giggle, whether I be in a bad mood, an awkward situation, or just need a laugh. And, honestly, it isn’t even that hard. I want someone to enjoy things with me and make life fun, whenever possible.
Don’t be overbearing. I think that it’s pretty well-known that I like my alone time. I enjoy love and attention like the next guy, but please don’t suffocate me with it. Let me have my Me Time, and you can go have your own. I’m not into PDA whatsoever, and I’m not one of those girls who say things like if I run away, chase after me, or if I pull away, pull me in closer. Hell no. Let me breathe. And if you can respect that, we should be just fine.
Family-oriented. If you show me that your family is a priority, good. That makes you a decent human being, and I appreciate that. If you enjoy spending time hanging with your family, and doing things for them, even better. That just shows me that your priorities coincide with mine. I want kids of my own in the future, and I think that it would be awesome if I had someone to share that with.
Be nice. But not too nice where it’s annoying, you know? I don’t think that I’m asking for much here. I don’t want to waste my time with someone who is selfish or wishes bad things upon others. Have respect for others and their property. I don’t want to be around someone who takes their parents for granted, or treats their grandmother like one of their little friends.
Be curious. A curious mind is a working mind. Want to get to know about me, my mind, and my world. Learn new things with me, go anywhere and everywhere with me, and do things with me.
Be open and honest. This one kind of goes hand-in-hand with the last one, but this is so important. Do you know how often people turn to me with relationship issues and my advice is to tell their significant other? I would want your friends to say the same. I will want to know all about you and your world, and I will want to know every little thing that goes on in your head, so just tell me.
Food. Women love food just as much as men do. When you’re hungry, ask if I am, and I’ll probably say yes. I’m a simple girl, so don’t judge me when I want chicken tenders and French fries if you want a five course steak dinner. I will most likely want desert, and I prefer ice cream cake over bakery cake.
Make me a priority. I wasn’t sure if I really wanted to put this one, because I feel like it should be a given, but I where I know where I stand with just about everyone I know. I’ve been forgotten on multiple occasions, and my self-esteem has really been shot down to the floor because of it. Just show me that I’m more than just some random girl you decide to spend however much time with.
Music. Honestly, the best way to win me over is probably through dance, no matter how bad you are at it. Let’s go to concerts, or just take long car rides, and listen to music. Sing and dance and make a complete fool out of yourself with me. If you do, you’ve probably already got me.
Love me unconditionally. There will be days when I’m all sunshine and rainbows, and nothing can stop me. Bask in those days of glory with me. There are also days when I don’t want to leave my bed or talk to anyone. Please don’t take my shutting you out as something personal. Be patient with me, and understand that I will get back up again.
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