“Car, I am afraid. There’s a part of me that wants to let him in, but then I feel myself put this wall up. And I don’t understand why, maybe that’s what strikes me most about Kostas; that despite everything he suffered, he can still look at life in the most uncomplicated way. I could never know that kind of faith. It makes me so sad that people like Kostas and Bridget, who have lost everything, can still be open to love. While I, who have lost nothing, cannot.” – Lena, The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants
When I was younger, I never really listened to this quote. And then I watched the movie again when I got a little older. I was probably about sixteen or seventeen when I paid close attention to the things I haven’t caught on to before. Lena was writing Carmen her letter to send with the traveling pants from Greece to North Carolina, and she was worried about this boy who was showing a lot of interest in her. She liked him too, but she was afraid to open herself up to that.
I realized back then, listening to the voiceover, that this was something that I’ve thought about before. I had friends who have lost people in their lives and still went on with open hearts. This is something I couldn’t do. It’s also something that I don’t think that I can do even now. I don’t even know what the fear is even about, but I don’t know how to live life that way. It just seems scary to risk something like that. So this inner monologue really got to me.
“I am very interested and fascinated how everyone loves each other, but no one really likes each other.” – Stephen Chbosky, Perks of Being a Wallflower
I actually really like a couple quotes from this book and movie, but this one was like a hit in the face. I think Charlie was sitting at his kitchen table eating dinner with his family when this line was used; it was another quote that was simply character’s inner monologue. I still think about this a lot.
I’ve heard people say to friends and family members alike, “I love you, but I don’t like you right now.” And I think that this kind of thing happens often. Love can be the underlying connection between you and somebody else, but you don’t always have to be on the same side or page as that person. I don’t know if that sounds right; it makes better sense in my head. I feel like everybody feels this way at all the time, and that’s okay. Everything doesn’t always have to be perfect.
“Your first reaction to things is your conditioned thought, it’s what you were taught to think. Your second thought, however, shows your true character.” – Anonymous
I love this quote. I remember seeing it on the internet one day, because some girl had an issue. She was saying how she saw some random stranger dressed a certain way and thought a horrible thing at first, but then corrected herself and said, “you go girl, do your thing.” And I connected with that.
I find myself falling in that same pattern. It doesn’t happen all the time, but it happens here and there. I hate it when I see any person and automatically think something negative. It’s so annoying that my thoughts can be on autopilot like that—where social norms reside in my brain, and take over immediately. I always find myself thinking, “Wait…whoa, that was super messed up, and totally wrong, you don’t know that person, how dare you judge them…” etcetera.
And that makes me think sometimes that the people I’ve been around growing up kind of screwed me over by making me think a certain way. But then I think about the quote above, and then I feel like I can breathe because it wasn’t my thought because I actually want to think like that. It’s what I was taught to think.
“Believe in yourselves. Dream. Try. Do good.” – George Feeny, Boy Meets World
Okay, so anyone that has probably ever met me knows that Boy Meets World has a special place in my heart. I had the biggest crush on Cory Matthews. This show had such a huge impact on me as a kid, even if what I watched was reruns. Mr. Feeny, in all his educated glory, gave the main characters his last piece of wisdom for the show above.
In the show, Topanga tried to correct Mr. Feeny, “don’t you mean, ‘do well’?” And he replied, “no, do good.” And that stuck with me.
Any Grammar Nazi would have done the same thing as Topanga, but Mr. Feeny knew what he said. He meant do good, like do good in the world. Be the good. Do good deeds, be a good person. And I love that of all things, that was his last lesson.
Prompt: What are some of your favorite quotes? Why?