You’re probably thinking that this post is going to be about Jon Snow. Well, I guess it kind of is, but not really. I’m going to talk about the Myers-Briggs personality types—well, my personality type. And I just happen to have the same one as Jon Snow…hence the picture.
If you don’t know yours, and would like to find out, I used this website called 16Personalities. It’s basically just a ten-minute test, where you answer whether or not each statement relates to you. It’s super easy, and the results are interesting to read! (Yes, I realize I sound like a commercial, but it’s just because I love this kind of thing.)
I’ve taken this test a couple of times before, because it has changed in the past, so I decided to take it again today. The last time I took it was probably about a year ago, and I was considered an Architect, which is another name for the personality type INTJ.
I got different results this time around, too, although it isn’t very different from the Architect. Now, I obtain the characteristics of the INFJ personality, also known as an Advocate. And after reading my results, I think that they are eerily accurate. One specific section of the introduction really struck a chord or two:
As I was reading this, my mind basically screamed, YES, THAT’S YOU. I absorbed every sentence, wildly aware of how accurate the details are. I have always claimed to be stubborn and have strong beliefs, but nobody ever takes that seriously, because I don’t speak my mind very often. Very few people in my life hear what I actually think. And as for that second paragraph…all I have to say is yes, a million times over.
The second section of the results talks about strengths and weaknesses. To put it short, the website says that an Advocate’s strengths are being creative, insightful, inspiring and convincing, decisive, determined and passionate, and altruistic. I think that in general terms, I’m not very inspiring or convincing, but from what the site says about being those things make more sense to me. It says that, “Advocates have a fluid, inspirational writing style that appeals to the inner idealist in their audience. Advocates can even be astonishingly good orators, speaking with warmth and passion, if they are proud of what they are speaking for.”
As for weaknesses, Advocates are considered to be sensitive (true), extremely private (very true), perfectionistic (um, YES), always need to have a cause (guilty), and can burn out easily (very guilty). I don’t think I need to go much further into that.
The third section that 16Personalities dives into is Romantic Relationships. It basically states that we’re the most ridiculous people in the world, because we will take forever to find someone, because we look for a partner “they truly connect with”. We are “perfectionistic and picky,” and can see right through lies and manipulation. I specifically love the part where it says:
Advocates will go out of their way to seek people who share their desire for authenticity, and out of their way to avoid those who don’t, especially when looking for a partner.”
It’s just so funny to me because it’s so true for me even now, just with normal, everyday people at work. A lot of the women I work with are middle-aged or older, and just want to snoop and gossip. I can get into that sometimes, but that’s literally all they do. I literally talk to maybe four people on a daily basis here, because I can’t deal with how childish and ridiculously petty everyone is.
The fourth section, friendship, is almost the same as the romantic relationship information. See section below, so I don’t have to scream it from the rooftops:
There is a running theme with Advocates, and that is a yearning for authenticity and sincerity – in their activities, their romantic relationships, and their friendships. People with the Advocate personality type are unlikely to go for friendships of circumstance, like workplace social circles or chatting up their local baristas, where the only thing they really have in common is a day-to-day familiarity. Rather, Advocates seek out people who share their passions, interests and ideologies, people with whom they can explore philosophies and subjects that they believe are truly meaningful…In friendship it is as though Advocates are searching for a soul mate, someone who shares every facet of their passions and imagination.”
Do you know how often my dad and aunt, Roxanne, tell me to try to make friends at work? I don’t need friends at work, because there is nothing for me here, but work. Okay, I talk to a bunch of people on the reg, and have one actual friend at work, but even then, we’re not that close. I’m not the kind of person that wants to be friends with everybody; I would much rather have a handful of real people that I feel an actual connection with, who I feel like I can actually talk to. (I guess that explains why I hate small talk so much.)
It says that people who have the Advocate personality have a hard time finding friendships because of this, as well as how “private and even enigmatic” they are. “Advocates don’t readily share their thoughts and feelings, not unless they are comfortable, and since those thoughts and feelings are the basis for Advocate friendships, it can take time and persistence to get to know them.” In other words, we’re probably the most difficult people you will ever meet.
The fifth section of the results talks about parenthood. Generally, it says that Advocates try to raise their children to be like them, but I think that everybody does that. There’s even a subheading that is called, “Be Unique, Just Like Me,” a saying I’ve always chuckled at. Advocate parents will also apparently push their children to thinking independently, which I strongly believe in, so there’s another check off my How Accurate Can This Thing Really Be list.
The next two sections, called Career Paths and Workplace respectively, mention how Advocates have a hard time finding jobs early in life. Which I, one-hundred-percent, agree with. It states the following:
…many Advocates struggle to begin a career early on because they see ten wildly different paths forward, each with its own intrinsic rewards, alluring but also heartbreaking, because each means abandoning so much else.”
Typically, Advocates are drawn to jobs that connect them to people and helping them, like doctors, psychologists (I see what you did there, personality), counselors, life coaches, and spiritual guides. They also look for jobs that allow them to be creative, and establish their independence. Because of this, Advocates tend to end up in high positions, or become their own boss entirely. Which, I would not mind at all; can’t say that I haven’t thought about it.
Advocates “value diplomacy and sensitivity”, so we do best where we can be independent, as well as have our input. They like for everyone to feel as equals, and kind of expect everyone to be as efficient, hardworking, and dedicated as they are. 16Personalities ends the section with the following:
Advocates have no tolerance for lapses in reliability or morality. But, so long as no such lapse occurs, Advocates will work tirelessly to ensure that their subordinates feel valued and happy.”
After reading and going over all of that, I don’t know if I feel more understood or like my space was invaded. It is always so intriguing and insightful to read up on this kind of thing. I feel like my results were pretty spot-on, and I really hope that this persuades someone else to try the test out. I can promise that you will not be unsatisfied.
Prompt: What is your Myers-Briggs personality type? Take the test, then tell us about it. Do you agree with your results?