“Compromise is something that’s kind of in-between. It’s like halfway happy.” – Jim Hopper, Stranger Things
Compromise—it’s something that we all must deal with in our daily lives. It’s unavoidable, really; it’s one of the few things that you need to be ready to discuss in any kind of relationship. And if you are used to getting your way, and having things handed to you all the time, learning about compromise for the first time is like one huge, rude awakening.
I mean, unless you’re a psychopath, and are super manipulative. Then in that case, you probably won’t ever have to give anything up.
But if you’re a normal, boring, every day human being, like myself, you know what it feels like to give things up for others. Because, you know, relationships are all about give and take. And it’s not just romantic relationships, either; you must also be ready for compromise with your friends, your family, your coworkers, and colleagues.
…and something tells me that not a lot of people realize that.
When it comes to the smaller things in life (i.e.: whose turn it is to take out the trash; or having two events scheduled at the same time, and having to figure out which you’re going to), there might be a person who is easygoing enough to give in, or a time when the choice is simple enough to put your own differences aside.
But when it comes to more important things, relationships become more fragile. Decisions made and acted upon can really influence the way you and your spouse/friend/family member/colleague think and feel about each other. Feelings get hurt, relationships are tested.
And yes, I know how vague that sounds, but there are just so many things that go wrong in our relationships with others because we forget about compromise.
Sometimes, when we get in our own heads, we forget about being compassionate, being empathetic, and being good people.
And you know what? That’s no good excuse. I think that slipping up every now and then is forgivable, but I find that a lot of people are just so caught up in their own strong emotions, that they can’t find the room in their hearts to compromise on what they want.
I get that most people aren’t trying to be selfish and controlling, but that’s how they are portraying themselves; by doing whatever the hell they want, and directing however many of the lives that surround them possible. And honestly, I don’t think that’s very fair.
Anxiety, depression, and other mental illnesses are very much real…but so are compassion, and empathy, and compromise. Saying that you’re naturally an anxious or controlling person is no excuse for letting other people at the reins, every once in a while.
It’s healthy to let go, let loose, and do something outside of your boring, normal, everyday life. In fact, it’s beneficial to push past your own limits, and sometimes let others make a decision for you.
You just might find the other half of happiness there. And, if you ask me, I think it’s worth the risk. So, for the sake of everybody involved, get out of your own damn head, and give your heart a break. Give your relationships some balance, put others’ hearts at ease. Don’t give up your whole self in the process, but find it in yourself to let others be half happy, as well.
Do the damn thing.